Valentine’s day is just around the corner, but I bet you already know it. Around this time of the year, people split up into two categories: those who are in a relationship and those who are single.
Suddenly, the fact are you in a relationship or not starts to seem much more important.
But, what if you are single? What if there is no magical love for you to cherish? Don’t worry, you are not alone.
I have been thinking about what I should say to you to let you know that it’s perfectly fine to be single, and I came up with a few reasons why being single is sometimes a benefit!
You have time for yourself.
As cheesy as it sounds, you are your best friend, your most significant project… Many of us have the wish to develop ourselves in various things, but we are caught up in the fast rhythm of the music the world’s playing.
Imagine how much time people spend in bad relationships… Even if you haven’t been in one, you may have heard about abusive/boring/sad relationships that tend to hold people back.
Imagine spending so much time on a person, trying to fit in with someone’s ideal criteria… Imagine giving pieces of your own self to the person that will one day leave you.
You can spend that extra time on yourself when you’re single and the only criteria there is is the one you set.
Achieving things will make you feel as if you are fulfilling your life and make you want to work more. Motivation will become your best friend.
You will save money.
This may seem like a stupid reason because love is greater than money (which is true and we also think that), but have you ever thought of things wasted in relationships that seem to end very bad?
You spend money on gifts, on dinners, on clothes for the person, yet sometimes it feels like you’re throwing money away.
Remember that bag you really wanted? Or that book you wished to get? When was the last time you went to the cinema?
You need to spoil yourself sometimes.
You don’t have to explain yourself.
Do you want to get some ice cream at 3 a.m.? Sure, why wouldn’t you?
You just got an urge to travel next week, and there is a cheap plane ticket to Greece? Buy it and go!
However, if you have a partner, this may not be an option.
“Where are you going? Why would we do that? Do we really have to? What are the benefits of doing this? I am not feeling like going.”
These phrases are the worst sentences you could ever hear, especially if you are creative and adventurous.
If you are single, no one is holding you back from anything.
You have the whole bed to yourself.
Are you one of those people who like to spread their arms and legs while on the bed for maximum comfort?
Even if you are not, you are probably familiar with the fact that it’s much more comfortable to sleep on your own.
There is no one tugging on your favorite blanket and no one taking your pillow or turning it around.
You are as free as a bird… Not to mention that you get to wake up whenever you want.
There is no emotional drama.
We have all encountered various relationships in life which seem to end in a dramatic way.
Not only is yelling and fighting not polite, but it is also very stressful and people can suffer from them.
Some people just drain energy out of others through nagging, fighting, negative thoughts and so on, but you are single and you’ve no partner to consume your energy.
You might as well start using it for something great: a new hobby perhaps!
You are in charge.
You eat what you want, watch the TV when you want, clean the bathroom as many times per week as you want and eat spaghetti as much as you wish.
There is no one to tell you things like:
“Ice cream is not something to eat late at night.”
“But my show is about to start…”
“Having spaghetti for lunch three times a week probably isn’t the smartest thing in the world.”
Well, why would you let anyone stick their nose all up into your spaghetti business? You do you!
A new wave of feelings is up to your way.
No more jealousy, no more anger, no more worries…
Do you remember the weird feeling of excitement you have in your stomach when you are approaching someone new, someone, you have just seen and you find cute?
Do you remember how it feels to be free?
Do you remember how it feels not to be worried all of the time?
Your mind will be at ease. No more thoughts like: “Does he love me? Maybe he doesn’t. Am I with him because I think he loves me, but he does not?”
Being single isn’t all that bad, huh?
Don’t mind Valentine’s day… Go grab your best friend, mom, sibling or roommate and head out to your favorite restaurant.
In the end, romance isn’t the only manifestation of love. There are many types of magical love all around us.